Monday, July 7, 2014

Your Parents' Divorce

Karen and her boyfriend broke up two years ago.

"When are you ever going to get another boyfriend?" her friend teased.

Karen replied, "I have no idea.  I really want to be in a relationship, but I don't want to go through a bad breakup ever again.  I lived through the pain of my parents' divorce and of my own relationship and it left me with no confidence in love."

Her friend answered, "Well, if you continue to avoid a relationship for fear of being hurt, you will never find love.  You must take a risk on love, knowing that if it doesn't work out, you will survive.  You don't need confidence in love, you need confidence in yourself."

Thursday, February 6, 2014

Valentine's Day Love

It's that time again.  Time to celebrate love.  If you are in a relationship, enjoy the special day with your loved one.  Express gratitude for the positive they bring to your life. 

If you are not currently in a relationship, it's a great time to remember all the wonderful qualities you possess.  Focus on the positive.  Happy Valentine's Day!

Saturday, January 11, 2014

What Do You Want in 2014?

Now that the holidays are over, it's time to focus on yourself.  The beginning of a new year is the best time to evaluate and analyze your relationship. 

What do you want for yourself this year?  Are you happy?  If not, what needs to change?  Is your relationship characteristic of what love looks like?  The book will help you figure it out.

Now is a great opportunity to make positive changes so 2014 will be your best year ever.  You can do it!

Monday, November 4, 2013

Can You Be Yourself?

"It seems like you have changed so much," Carla said as she glanced over the table to her friend, Liz.

Liz replied, "In what way?"

"Well, since you've been dating Eric, you don't seem like yourself.  I think you are walking on eggshells when you are with him and often don't tell him how you feel about things or what you want out of the relationship.  Seems like you are trying to mold yourself into being the person you think he wants you to be."

"I think you are right," Liz said. "I don't want to lose him."

This is common behavior in many adult children of divorce seeking love.  The ability to fully be yourself in a relationship is one of the most important aspects of a healthy, loving relationship.

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Divorce and Trust Issues

If your parents are divorced, it's very common to experience issues of trust. 

You may wonder if you can trust your partner to be faithful.  You may worry your partner will leave you for someone else.

You may question your ability to pick the right partner.  You may wonder if you are capable of sustaining a long-term relationship.

Relax.  These fears are normal.  Use the information in the book to overcome your trust issues.  You can do it.  It is possible.

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Fear of Abandonment

"What's wrong?  You look so sad for someone who has a great life, a great husband and a new baby.  You should be smiling."

Diane replied, "I know I have everything I ever wanted, but I'm afraid of losing it all."

Her girlfriend asked, "What is your fear?"

Diane answered, "I'm afraid I'll follow in my mom's footsteps.  She's been divorced twice and I don't know how to avoid it in my relationship."

Many adult children of divorce fear abandonment and may subconsciously sabotage their own relationship to protect themselves from getting hurt.  When you are in a relationship characteristic of what love looks like, releasing your fear will enable you to sustain a loving, long-term relationship.  Use the tips in the book to help you create the love you deserve.

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Are You Ready for Love?

One of our most basic and common desires is the need to be loved.  Adult children of divorce often wonder if long-lasting love is possible after witnessing their parents' divorce. 

The need to be loved can cause some adult children of divorce to rush into romantic relationships with the wrong partner.  If you have recently experienced a breakup or divorce, ask yourself if you are, again, ready for love.

Likely, time alone to reflect on your life will better prepare you for a successful relationship in the future.